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Archive for May, 2007

May 31st, 2007

The matter of privacy

I always struggle with how much to talk about here. Lately, more of it has been coming out in comments at other places. And I still find myself wrestling with it.

I have had some really awful things happen to me over the years at the hands of people who ostensibly loved me. And I don’t want to talk about them in public because they still have the power to make my life pretty miserable.

But I’m really compelled to write a memoir. Heck, I have one in progress already, with more than 7,000 online journal posts in various places. Yes, the life of a compulsive writer.

There’s a lot of funny amid the pain. I wonder if abused people who manage to come out of the wreckage emotionally intact always have a slightly edgy wit going on. Or, if the comedians with the subtlest humor always come out of warped households.

But how do I tell my story without eviscerating my very real, very living demons in public?

Ah well. You’ll just have to wait. :)

May 31st, 2007

Is it me, or are Pisky-Women…

… more likely to be astute admirers of English Literature, particularly of the Austen-Woolf corridor?

I’m starting to feel typecast in my own novel. Well, at least I don’t have a collar and a crush on the local police chief.

May 30th, 2007

Welcome to Episcopalia

Now some round these parts might think to be all splittin’ hairs over this and that in the anglican communion, but really, nothing gets Episcopalians up in a row more than standing firm about their parking spaces.

May 29th, 2007

Wisdom

Looking back on the last four months, worshipping with Hindus,
Buddhists, Indian Episcopalians (Church of India, north and South),
praying in mosques, participating in the mass in the Greek Orthodox
Church, I am reminded of a Hopi Indian belief. All people who worship
God faithfully hold a fragile string, but when they are woven together
it creates a great rope.

One of the many reasons I miss worshipping regularly with Father Jim. He’s been on Sabbatical for the past four months, and blogged the whole adventure here, and of course he gets back pretty much in time for me to, like, move.

:(

DFH will love this quote. And I love it because it ties in well with spinning yarns. It comes from the rector of one of my churches (I have a new sidebar that provides links to my various church homes of the past 30-odd years I’ve been alive. The only church that I haven’t listed is the one I was baptized in, but I can’t find it on the web: St. Paul’s in the Village of Flatbush, Brooklyn NY.)

Anyhow. I hope Jim comes back to blogging. I still want to podcast his sermons.

May 29th, 2007

Maintenance

Playing with technocrati, again…

Technorati Profile

May 28th, 2007

weekend is fired

I know, it was pentecost. I missed it. I was having a bad case of holiday weekend. Ooh, we have an extra day!

not that i’m out having fun, mind you. I was on a mission to retrieve some furniture from my aunt’s place in pottstown pa.

it just hasn’t gone well. we had intended to be loaded up last night and on the road early this morning, but two things kept that from happening: 1. we didn’t get there until after 7, and 2. when we did get there, it was pouring.

so we didn’t get back until almost 6 tonight, because of all the logistics.

i’m so glad this is the last time we have to move for a long time. i’ll also be glad when it’s over. I suspect we’ll be using the rest of ordinary time to shuffle the rest of our crap from northern virginia to here.

the worst part is that we still have one more run to make from PA. It would be nice if we could afford the rental truck and do it all in one shot, but the stupid medical bills are piling up from my stupid pinched nerve issue.

ah well. i’m tired and cranky. Fortunately, I had a humor essay published at the Episcopal Cafe this week. Enjoy. :D

May 26th, 2007

RGBP Friday Fiving

I should start doing these again, since they’re a great way of getting to know us.

1. Have you ever successfully quit a bad habit, or gotten a good habit established? Tell us about how you did it.
I quit smoking for the third and final time by taking up knitting. I quit caffeine because I was highly motivated and Lent seemed to be a good excuse for keeping track. I learned to control my temper by being more mindful of my own emotions and figuring out that I while i might not be able to change a bad stimulus, I could better manage my own reactions to it.

2. “If only there were a 12-step program for _________________!”
hypergraphia.

3. Share one of your healthy “obsessions” with us.
I’d like to think that my writing is a healthy obsession, but what with the pinched nerve business, I’m not so sure anymore.
I’m also completely infatuated with my fiance, even when he’s raging at inanimate objects that didn’t mean to succumb to gravity, honest.

4. Share the habit of a spouse, friend or loved one that drives you C-R-A-Z-Y.
Someone in my family is notorious for saying I never do [x annoying behavior] and then does it all the time.

5. “I’d love to get into the habit of ___________________.”
Being fastidious.

Bonus: What is one small action you might take immediately to make #5 a reality?
Throw away the garbage on my desk.

Bonus 2: Try it, and let us know how it goes in a future post!
I can’t! I have all this writing to do!

May 26th, 2007

Pastor speaks of transgender experience

Being on lots of news feeds for Episcopal Cafe means I read a lot more about pretty much all the mainline denominations. (Here I pause to note that I have difficulty typing the word “denominations.” I always go for the “m” first.) This story caught my eye.

A transgender United Methodist pastor has shared his story with other members of the denomination’s Baltimore-Washington Conference in the hopes of promoting a broader discussion about gender identity.

The Rev. Drew Phoenix - formerly the Rev. Ann Gordon - spoke at both a closed clergy session and a general plenary session on May 24 during the annual conference meeting at the Wardman Park Hotel in Washington. He is pastor of St. John’s United Methodist Church in Baltimore.

“I was very grateful for the opportunity to be able to share my story and who I am,” Phoenix told United Methodist News Service in a phone interview following those sessions. “I was very pleased at the number of people who were very honest in their reflections and questions.”

He said he has been undergoing medical procedures for the transition from female to male during the past year, with “a great team of medical people who helped me think it out.”

In his statement to the plenary session, the 48-year-old pastor explained that “last fall, after a lifelong spiritual journey, and years of prayer and discernment, I decided to change my name from Ann Gordon to Drew Phoenix in order to reflect my true gender identity and to honor my spiritual transformation and relationship with God.”

Read more here.

I have two very close friends who are transgender. One of them is the first to transition at the US Department of Defense and a Catholic who hopes to marry her partner of more than a decade. I love them. They helped me become comfortable being a Christian among people who, well, aren’t. Probably another chapter in my “saved by lesbians” book, should I ever write it. (My friend Sarah, today: “Were you?” Me: “Yes.” They didn’t exactly drag me back into church, but that’s where the nudging happened.)

May 26th, 2007

Sara Miles on Religion and Ethics Weekly

From a release:

Sara Miles spent most of her life as an avowed atheist. As a journalist in the 1980s she covered wars in Central America and later became an editor for the left-leaning investigative magazine “Mother Jones.” But her life changed dramatically one day after she walked into St. Gregory of Nyssa Episcopal Church in San Francisco and took Communion. At that moment, Miles found both God and her life’s mission: feeding the hungry. Now, with the help of dedicated volunteers, she runs St. Gregory’s Food Pantry, collecting five to six tons of donated bread and tomatoes and groceries every week to share with the poor and homeless.

Lucky Severson talks to Miles about her conversion and mission to help San Francisco’s poor documented in her recent book, “Take This Bread.” Miles says, “I think what I discovered in that moment when I put the bread in my mouth and was so blown away by the reality of Jesus, was that the requirement for faith turned out not to be believing in a doctrine or knowing how to behave in a church, or being the right kind of person, or being raised correctly or repeating the rituals. The requirement for faith seemed to be hunger. It was the hunger that I had always had and the willingness to be fed by something I didn’t understand.”

Read the full story

I did find the copy of the book that i had bought and I’m hoping to get some reading done this weekend. I’m always curious about people who make this journey because I am following in their footsteps, having been an atheist and coming back to faith and trying to find a way to merge vocation with profession. I’m also fascinated with people who convert as a result of being allowed to the table despite not being a member of the body of Christ.

The difficult thing about some of these books is that many of them are more preoccupied with having been a wretched sinner drinker prior to their conversion. I can’t relate to “getting sober” memoirs and find them grating, perhaps because of my journey as an ACOA.

Sara, thankfully, doesn’t suffer from this self-consciousness. I’ve been wanting this kind of memoir, and love especially how it focuses on communion–which I explain to my secular friends as a purging of negative energy (through Confession) and an inspiration of positive energy (through Eucharist). They often have this face that I can’t explain any other way than newfound comprehension and appreciation.

However, I do note that her grandmother’s name is Helen. Let me just wax self-centered for a moment and complain, once again, that whenever I introduce myself, people seem to automatically with “Oh, I can’t forget that name! My grandmother’s name is Helen.”

Not sister. Not cousin. Not mother or aunt. *Grandmother.* Makes it darn near impossible to be cool.

May 24th, 2007

God bless Google Reader

I’ve discovered the joy of Google reader, which makes reading blog feeds just as easy as reading my livejournal friends list, and much easier to filter.

now if i could just persuade Google News to take Virtue Online off the news feeds, since the Onion is a more trustworthy news source, life would be grand. I’m quite sure its million of hits is (a) the xml page getting pinged constantly and (b) people accidentally thinking it’s legitimate news about the Episcopal Church clicking via Google News.

Anyhow, if you’ve never used Google reader, it’s pretty easy if you already have a Google account. Login, and then click this link:
http://feeds.feedburner.com/helenmosher
You’ll have the choice of adding it to your homepage or to Google reader.

Group your feeds by clicking on “feed settings” in the top right corner. You can rename the feed, or add it to a folder. The folder will appear on the lefthand side of the screen. When you add multiple blog feeds to one folder, you can just click on the folder and read back through the posts like an LJ friends list!

I LOVE this tool. I’m finally able to keep up with my nonLJ friends!